This is a little blurb I birthed out of my brain today:
It’s not that I’m anxious-avoidant in my relationships with those I love, but I am with everyone else and within any situation that might involve me dealing with them.
I’m not necessarily antisocial, but close. In other words I was never originally antisocial, but my experiences have led me to take on some very antisocial qualities. It is the manic within my genetic bipolar tendencies which turned people away from me, and turned me away from people as well. Antisocial behavior and anxious-avoidant attachments are usually taught. People are trained to become this way due to certain experiences or lifestyles starting from young ages. However, these issues are not always initiated when young; I was not very antisocial until late highschool-early college. It depends.
I am not solely a nature-theory follower or a nurture-theory follower, but I subscribe to both equally. I believe it takes both to create truly problematic and interfering psychological issues/disabilities. Usually, to be nearly or outright debilitated by one’s psychological problems takes more than simply being born with it, or only enduring traumas. At least that is how I see it, and that is how I have gathered this ideal through my research and studies. It takes two to tango, even if one or the other initiates the problems first. One tends to follow the other somehow to create truly destructive behaviors.